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人生

路遥的《人生》是一个朋友推荐给我读的。两个晚上就读完了。很震撼。鲜活的人物在我的脑海中转来转去,心情很复杂,但是我好像也理不出很好的思路来表达我的感觉。我知道,无论什么样的感觉,那都是局限于我现在的认知和处境,因此无关对错。但是我还是想把它们写下来,这样来观察我自己的成长。

对于高加林这个人物,小说中是两条线:事业和爱情。他是一个被动接受的人物,没有自己去争取机会,但是还有一些怀才不遇的心里。他被辞退教职和被接发走后门的事情把他在农民和城市人中转换着角色。他有自己给自己的定位,但是他没有为自己的定位争取,只是一味地听从于外界的因素。他没有认清现实,当现实和他的理想一致的时候,他很开心;当现实跟他想的不一样的时候,他就会气馁。没有一种韧性来支撑自己去争取。在爱情方面也是一样的,他接受巧珍,因为那是巧珍主动的;他接受黄亚平,那也是黄亚平主动的。但是他在接受的时候从来没有想过是不是应该接受,之后会是什么样子。这样的接受是对的还是错的。他空有自己的才华,但是他在事业和爱情的选择方面却是分毫没有利用。

对于巧珍这个人物,她是一块金子。她内心向往着知识,敢于追求自己喜欢的,同时也敢于承受结果。她对自己的定位很正确,她有自知之明,但是很乐观。她顶着巨大的压力,很慎重的在做着选择。然而在爱情面前,她也明白该放下的就该放下。

对于黄亚平这个人物,我觉得她代表的就是一些娇生惯养的城里的独生子女。她们敢于追求,敢于表达,但是不会替别人着想,她只会利用哭来获得父母的默许和无奈。她一切的出发点就是自己。

我感谢这本书,是它告诉我:
“人生的道路虽然漫长,但紧要处常常只有几步,特别是当人年轻的时候。
没有一个人的生活道路是笔直的,没有岔道的。有些岔道口,譬如政治上的岔道口,事业上的岔道口,个人生活上的岔道口,你走错一步,可以影响人生的一个时期,也可以影响一生。”

-柳青

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Posted by on August 12, 2017 in book, Life, Uncategorized

 

我亲爱的甜橙树

这本书的英文名字是:My Sweet orange Tree
我在豆瓣上找到的这本书。我分三次把这本书读完的。在这三次中,我最后一次的2个小时中,是以泪洗面过来的。第二天,两只眼睛肿的跟熊猫眼一样,而且非常的干涩。现在想这里面的某些情节,眼泪还是会止不住的留下来。那些情节让人触目惊心,让人心碎。里面的泽泽的早熟,善良,宽容和勇敢,让我无法忘记。

泽泽是一个5岁的小孩子,在家里那么的淘气,做一些淘气的坏事情, 在学校却是一个很乖很乖的小孩子。他的生日是圣诞节,在自己生日的时候期待的是生日礼物和圣诞礼物。在什么也没有得到的那一刻,他说了一句“有个没钱的爸爸真惨”,却被爸爸听见了。他很内疚,于是拎起了擦鞋箱,走到大街上去擦皮鞋,用赚了的钱给爸爸买了香烟。这是一个多么懂事的孩子!他才5岁!

我又哭了,这种情节还有很多。早熟的泽泽心里住着太阳,他对每个人充满了爱,他会主动想办法用自己的劳动给姐姐赢得歌谱,他会借给哥哥钱,他会帮哥哥去打架,他会帮弟弟描述美丽的动物园,他会偷花来送给老师,他会把老师给的钱分一半给比他还穷困的小孩子,他会想省油钱而请求葡仔带他去近一点的地方,他会看到爸爸找不到工作而替他担心,他会觉得妈妈上班很辛苦而心疼。他也会搞一些恶作剧,然后得来的一顿毒打。但是他在老师和葡仔面前是一个很乖的孩子。因为他们给了他温柔,而在家里,他没有得到任何温柔,甚至连吃的都没有。你给人家温柔,人家就会回报你温暖。人和人之间又何尝不是呢?!

这本书告诉了我:
“人的心是很大的,放得下我们喜欢的每一样东西。”
“当你停止喜欢一个人,他就会在你心里慢慢死去。”

 
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Posted by on August 12, 2017 in book, Uncategorized

 

Book : Audrey Hepburn

This book was written by the son of Hepburn. It records lots of slices of Hepburn’s life. There are lots of points which impresses me a lot. Here, I only want to record two of them which I need to remember and learn.

1 Know what you can do and cannot do.

It is a critical part in everyone’s life to know what you cannot do. One cannot make everything perfect, while he/she can make one thing excellent at least. You want to do everything, and sometimes you think you can do everything. Therein, you just give yourself a high pressure, which is good. But when you become anxious when you cannot handle all of them  in parallel, you should remember that time and tell yourself that the life is just a pot which has fixed size each time period. At this moment, the pot is not big enough for you to load that much, but you can enlarge it gradually and believe that you can make it at some time in the near future. Hence, concentrating yourself on what you can do and improving yourself a little bit every day is the basis.

2 She did not regret, because she knew people who she loved love her as well.

This is a different point of view about happiness, or I have to say it is an extension. Some philosophers say that the happiness is from yourself not depending on anyone else. From my understanding, this point is to say, if you love people, and you also know the people also love you, you will be happier. This is also proved that it is always nice to hear that someone like you.

In this world, we live alone, but in the meantime, you live with others. Your own actions and the interactions constitute each day. It couldn’t be better that you are happy meanwhile you make others happy. That is the ultimate goal I am pursuing for.

 
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Posted by on November 17, 2012 in book

 

Book: Mindfulness for Dummies

This book is very useful to me. Thanks Fan Xie’ recommendation. I will continue this post with my reading progress.

Here, I just want to excerpt some points I think it is very important to me:

1 Mindfulness can improve productivity.

To be mindful, you usually need to do one thing at a time. When walking, you just walk. When listening, you just listen. When writing, you just write. By practicing formal and informal meditation, you are training your brain. You are training it to pay attention with mindful attitudes like kindness, curiosity and acknowledgement.

You can train attention, just as you can train your biceps in a gym. Meditation is gym for the mind.

2 Overcoming Challenges

  You are running to achieve goals so that you can be peaceful and happy, but actually you are running away from the peace and happiness. Mindfulness is an invitation to stop running and rest.

3 Calming the Mind

  If you are anxious, you may just block your understanding. A martial arts student went to his teacher and said earnestly, “I’m devoted to studying your martial system. How long will it take me to master it?” The teacher’s reply was casual, ‘Ten years.’ Impatiently, the student answered, “But I want to master it faster than that. I’ll work very hard. I’ll practise every day, ten or more hours a day if I have to. How long will it take then?” The teacher thought for a moment and replied, “Twenty years.”

 
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Posted by on September 28, 2012 in book, Uncategorized